day 60

and finally i got the time to write again. this week's work was insane! but it's been a great week for me and i am in the zone about working so i am definitely taking advantage. missing ying ying has been the same but at least for now, i am a bit more comfortable about our situation and i am slowly but surely settling into a groove with our current status. but it definitely doesn't mean i am missing her less because i miss her as much as before.

there are a lot of things you have to take into consideration about long distance relationships. and work is one of them. both me and ying ying are working right now and i have to say it is making us finding time to talk during weekdays difficult. given the time zone difference (by the time i will go to sleep, she will be starting her day and by the time she is eating her lunch, i am deep into my slumber) already, our window to catch each other awake grows slimmer especially if one of us arrives home very tired from work. i am pretty sure we are not alone in this kind of situation and there are others trying to cope up. one thing i learned from this is that you have to be very patient, understanding, and be in the right mind set. be patient that you could not talk to each other whenever you/her wants. there would always be other times and definitely he/she will talk to you once his/her schedule frees up. be understanding that work can take a toll on his/her day. there would be times that he/she will be in no mood to talk because he/she just had a hectic and stressful day. be understanding that no matter how much he/she tries to get involved in his/her everyday life, there would always be things he/she does that he/she will never be a part of. be in the right mind set that your current situation will be like this for a while and do not expect anything greater will happen. it will only get you frustrated if you will because you will not get what you are expecting and it will take a toll on your relationship in the long run.

stresses from work can put strain on relationships, both long distance and not. for me, if this happens, it is always better to give her space if she wants it and just be there by the time she needs me. it is always nice to be comforted by the one you love if problems from work starts caving in on you. it is important for both of you to be comfortable to talk about problems that are happening in your work and be each other's personal sound board. keep in my mind that success driven individuals value their career very much and you should never try to hinder them from  achieving their goal. it is in the long run, beneficial for you both because you are both happy and satisfied with what you are doing and it will definitely translate to a better union in the future.

right now, we are both blazing our trails and establishing ourselves in our chosen field. we are both doing it for ourselves and in the long term, our future. all i can do right now is be patient, understanding, be there for her when she needs me, and just trust our relationship. we both agreed that weekends would be catching up time for the both of us and i will be definitely looking forward to that :) and during weekdays, we would just drop by each other messages and short updates about our day. and i had the good fortune that i have free IDD calls to her which i ration for the whole month :) definitely helps in having my daily dose of her. and i must say that iphone has been great for the both of us. we can skype, facetime, message each other whenever we want to. and that online scrabble game keeps our competitive nature going :)

a lot of things can make long distance relationship difficult but as long as you are both committed, you would always find a way around those problems :)